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NEW: Telos U Therapist

I am starting a new adventure of working as a therapist at Telos U in Orem, UT! Telos U is a specialized program for young adults transitioning to higher levels of freedom and responsibility. Curious? Come to our Open House tomorrow from 3-8 pm (600 S Geneva Rd).

Book Review: FORTIFY: A Step Towards Recovery

"...My favorite line in this book actually happens on page 5. "Our aim is to help you reclaim and become again who you are and always have been, even if you forgot that for awhile." At ANASAZI we believe every child has a seed of greatness within them. They just need to remember. Both philosophies mean that the strength to overcome negative behaviors lies within."

INSPIRE: music.service.hope

At INSPIRE we are determined to make our dreams come true! We want you to be a part of our success. Please take a moment to check out our website: www.inspiremusicservice.org, FB page, join us at our next service project, or come to one of our upcoming Musical Firesides in the Valley to learn more about us.

"Make It Happen"

"Make It Happen" is a collection of principles, blog entries, stories, and conversations had on couches, floors, kitchen tables, and at many single-adult gatherings. It is filled with practical ways to make changes in your life, find hope, increase faith, strengthen relationships, and build the kingdom."

I Am My Sister's Keeper

"I am my sister's keeper. It is my responsibility to hold her heart and be aware of her concerns. I may not understand why she decided to wear pants to church or why she wants to go to the Priesthood session, but I can certainly learn about her cause and concerns before I demonize her."

Monday, December 12, 2016

Lessons Learned


As I've been doing each day of the #LIGHTtheWorld Campaign (25 ways to serve in 25 days) I find myself  feeling so grateful for all I have and the people I love and love me back. I get excited each day to find out what kind of service I will be doing. Today was no exception.

Day 12: "Jesus taught others and so can you"

All throughout my day I had been thinking of some of my favorite lessons learned. I remember the day my dad helped me learn to change the oil in my car...and then said, "I hope you never have to do that." I remember this one piano teacher I had that told me there is no secret to learning hard things but there is great reward. I remember the lessons learned when my brother died and my parents turned to God with such faith. I remember the lessons I learned when one of my best friends taught me the power of silence and how to truly listen. I am so indebted for the many lessons learned by incredible teachers but my mind kept going back to lessons learned from my grandpa Gus.


He was the BYU student body president, member of the Y's Men Band, and went on to raise 9 incredible children. My grandpa serve in the New England States mission w/o purse or script. Many nights he was cold and hungry but he had faith in God...and God delivered.

It was really no surprise to people that when my grandpa died many people shared their stories of how he had given them money for this or that. He helped missionaries pay for their missions. He never had much money raising 9 kids on a Religious Teacher's salary but whatever he had he shared. Grandpa would also say, "If money is your only problem--then you don't have problems." As someone who seems to always struggle with money I am keenly reminded of what he meant when I look at my life that has been filled with so many rich blessings.


And so as I'm finishing up my night, thinking of what I'm going to post on my Instagram about day 12,  I head over to Smith's to get a few things. On my way in a homeless man called me over and we had this conversation:
          HM: Good evening ma'am could you spare me some change on your way out.
          Me: I don't usually carry around change but would like something else?
          HM: I need some garbage bags?
          Me: Can I get you anything else, something to drink?
          HM: (smiling up at me) I need a lot of things in my life but a Coke would be great.

Then as I'm heading inside a nicely dressed middle-aged lady pulled me aside and said, "I wouldn't give him anything if he asked for something...it will just perpetuate his situation." I stopped dead in my tracks, I am sure she had the best of intentions, but I looked her in the eyes and said, "Well, then it's a good thing he didn't ask you." 

I walked inside and grabbed the few things I needed and thought about my warm car, nice house, my great job, and I got excited about getting a few things for the homeless man outside. I gave him the garbage bags, coke, chips and few other goodies and he was very grateful. I got in my car and just cried. I cried for the homeless man out in the cold. I cried for the lady who didn't understand. I cried because at that moment I deeply missed my grandpa.

The lessons I've learned have shaped the way I've lived my life and I wouldn't have it any other way. 

Monday, July 4, 2016

"Home"





Happy Independence Day! This is called "Home" and I hope you enjoy it!

Thursday, June 30, 2016

Ways You Can Support Someone Who is Single



My wicked awesome friend Stacie Proctor recently wrote a FB message titled, "Ways You Can Support Someone With A Mental Illness." I really loved her ideas and in that same vein I wanted to write up a little ditty of my own about singles.


Ways You Can Support Someone Who Is Single


When a single person says, "It's been really hard being single this long."

Don't Say:

  •  "Oh, you just haven't met the right person...they're out there." 
  •  "God is using you in different ways than being a mother/father...you are doing things you    couldn't do if you were married or had kids."
  • "Timing is everything....it's happen

Do Say:

  • "That must be hard."
  •  "What is hard for you?"
  •  "I really have no idea what that feels like but I'm glad you are talking with me about it."
As singles we know you love and care about us--this is why we are being vulnerable in the first place and letting you in on our pain.  As Brene Brown so aptly put it in this little lovely clip called "Empathy", "Rarely, if ever, does an empathic response begin with, "At least..."



When a single person says, "Sometimes it's really hard to be around family or at church where everyone seems to be married and have kids."

Don't Say:

  • "Yea, but parenting is lot harder than you think."
  • "But on the bright side you get to travel all around the world."
  • "If you don't get those blessings in this life then God will make them up to you in the next."
  • "You are so brave to keep showing up."
Do Say:
  • "Oh man, that's got to be hard."
  • "How do you deal with that?"
  • "Tell me more about that..."

Acknowledging me when I'm in pain–not rescuing or placating me–but just being there or sitting in that moment feels SO much better than anything you might say. I am most likely not tell you  aobut my pain for you to fix it but just for you to see me or hear me in that moment. Again Dr. Brene Brown said, "...The truth is rarely can a response make something better."


When a single person says, "Dating is really hard." or "I haven't been on a date for a long time."

Don't Say:

  • "You're so pretty/handsome you don't need to worry about it.
  • "You are just too awesome, you are intimidating, there's no guys/girls out there good enough for you.
  • "Well, if you weren't so picky"
Do Say:
  • "I hear you, dating really is hard."
  • "It's been a long time since I've been in the dating scene–what's it like?"
Good intentions are not the same as truly listening. Making me feel good about myself doesn't take away my loneliness. However, when you find a truth/pain inside of you that feels/felt similar to my pain and share that with me it makes all the difference.

***Bonus: Many times I got to family reunions of activities in my home ward and it seems that the only thing people can ask me about is if I'm dating someone. In essence, it's asking me about something I lack, over and over again. This does not build friendships or create unity. There is a lot you don't know about person that you can't see so just ask. For example, "Tell me about your job", "I heard that did some international traveling", I think I saw something on FB about you writing a book", etc. ***

Saturday, June 18, 2016

Together We Are Better

Don't mistake my silence for indifference
Grief is messy and there is no right way to mourn
When people we love and may not even know are killed
We, as humans, can't help feel hurt, betrayed, and torn

You may lash out in anger and I may be silent
That doesn't mean we both don't feel fear
You may try to find a reason or a cause
While I may just hold my loved ones near

People are people are people are people
And Love is love is love is love
Don't throw me into your "us against them"
Anger betrays  you when push comes to shove

My religious beliefs are not your concern
How I choose to live them however, affects all
And making any tragedy all about you
Is one of man's greatest downfalls

I may not sign a petition or march in a parade
But don't think for a moment I don't care
Together in love we are better and stronger
I have faith in good people out there

To REMEMBER Orlando, Newton, Boston
Fort Hood, Aurora, Killeen, Sandy Hook
Colorado, South Carolina, and so many more
Is something history can't overlook

So with heavy hearts and pleading souls
We each struggle to find our way
Remember the way you choose to grieve
May be different then me some days

I imagine there are things in which we agree
And therein lies our greatest power
To focus what we have in common for good
Line upon line and hour by hour

So fight the good fight however you choose
That allows me to do things my way
And hopefully we'll come together as one
At the end of these difficult days