The Importance of Being Still
I am in the business of healing and over the years two things stick out consistent and glaring. We, as humans, are terrible at sitting with pain
and watching others in it.
It's as if we are hard-wired to avoid, escape, test, numb-out
and/or help, fix, save, rescue.
When was the last time you actually thought about creating a space for the people you love to speak to you their pain?
The next time someone starts to invite you into their story—their pain/heartache—what would happen if all you did was listen? What if you actually didn't say a thing....even when they finished talking?
I am convinced that healing actually happens in the space when the words stop
I believe it's not about what you say but how willing you are to say nothing that helps the most
We are awkward and bumble our way through hard conversations. It makes sense that we want to fix things that are broken and find solutions to problems.
But what happens when we can't?
I wonder how often we fill that most important space with words that are empty in an attempt to make ourselves feel better?
What if instead we just listened?
What if you reached out your hand in comfort?
What if I just created a safe enough space that you could cry?
Would it be enough?
Sometimes I think we don't know how to sit in/with our pain because being still is deafening. We know how to do loud, busy, creative, social. We know how to do escape, entertainment, blame, guilt.
Somewhere along the way we forgot how to do quiet.
It is in the stillness that we discover our truth
So take some time to live intentionally. Grab someones hand and look them in the eye—as strange as that may be—and ask them to listen to your heart.
Take a moment to discover twinkly lights in all their glory and if you lie down underneath a lit Christmas Tree and look up through the branches in wonder and awe.
Reach out to someone that you least likely feel needs validation and validate them anyway.
Set aside some time to be still and sit with yourself.
Re-evaluate who you are, who others perceive you are, and who you want to be.
If you are living your truth then take a deep breathe and Rejoice!
There is something incredible that is found in the simple stillness of a grateful heart